“How in the hell could a man enjoy being awakened at 8:30 a.m. by an alarm clock, leap out of bed, dress, force-feed, shit, piss, brush teeth and hair, and fight traffic to get to a place where essentially you made lots of money for somebody else and were asked to be grateful for the opportunity to do so? ” -Charles Bukowski
Get up at 6am. Force food down your throat. Get dressed. Get out the door. Sit in the office for 8-12 hours. Eat lunch quickly. Go home. Eat. Go to bed. Repeat.
“Sorry love, that’s life” says your Mother.
“Sorry love, it’s not” I say to my daughter.
OK, so I don’t have a daughter but if I chose to live my life again, I would tell myself that working just to live is the most soul destroying action a human can ever undertake. The only exception is if you have your dream job. If you don’t, then your life is wasting away as you constantly wish for Friday, you wish for payday, you wish for Christmas breaks…you are wishing your life away.
What if we were just to STOP? Just for a moment…
What if we were to take a long bath instead of that quick shower?
What if we made a delicious dinner rather than chucking something in the microwave?
What if we ignored the clock? YES, ignore the clock. Don’t watch the clock, listen to yourself, your human clock and let that decide what to do. Eat when you feel hungry, drink when you feel thirsty, go to bed when you are tired. When did we stop listening to our bodies?
It has been such an eye opener over the past couple of years; the media have been publishing articles on how to beat depression and anxiety. It is a huge problem because we live in a world that is moving too fast, too much is expected from us. We simply can’t cope – even if we look happy on the outside, we are crumbling inside. We ache for peace so we buy things we don’t need when what we have inside us is really the gift we should be buying ourselves – happiness. If only we would stop to let it out.
This year, on a personal level, I let it all out. The biggest frustration in my life was the travelling I did to get to work. I found myself missing the essential pieces of getting myself together in the mornings. Now, I have a ritual of mindfully drinking tea, taking in the air of the morning in the garden, eating my breakfast and reading my cards for the day. Now, I have control over myself instead of the other way around. I asked if I could change my working hours – they said yes. There is no shame in asking to move things around, if it makes you more productive and then why would they disagree?
This isn’t about being selfish, it is about taking control of your life from the inside. If you feel you need deep internal change then get to it.
Write out a list of things you want to change and move through them one by one.
Never assume people will say no.
Remember what makes you happy even if you dance to your favourite song in the morning or wander on the grass without your shoes on.
Don’t listen to what you should be doing.
Ignore what “they say” you should do.
Listen to yourself.